Times have changed, ladies, and with it, the best dating tips and advice. We're embarking on new kinds of relationships as a newer type of woman. But even as all the traditional dating rules change, should the way we think about having sex on the date change, too? How soon is too soon — or is it okay to have sex on first dates if you feel like that's what you want to do? To get the guys' perspective, we asked the men in our lives to dish on when they think it's appropriate to do the deed for the first time, and their answers, well, they might surprise you. So without further ado, here are responses from men we know personally when asked about what men honestly think about sleeping together — or more specifically, about having sex — on the first date:.
The Dos and Don’ts of First Date Etiquette
I’m OK With Hooking Up On The First Date, But That DOESN'T Make Me Easy
Nobody likes first dates. Sex on the first date may not be the most traditional thing to do, but if you're both ready and excited, it could be the perfect way to cap off a fantastic night. Even if the chemistry is crackling, you're both clearly attracted to each other, and you know your roommate is out of town for the weekend, deciding to hook up isn't always easy. The values you've been taught about sex can be tough to shake off, especially if you've been raised to believe that sex before the third date, or before you're in an official relationship, or even before you're married is taboo.
And yet, women being comfortable with our bodies still seems to be a big topic in mass media. I'm an adult. There is no reason I can't have consensual sex with someone on the first date. It does NOT make me easy, and it does not mean I'll have sex with just anyone the first time I meet them. Why is it that when we talk about sex and how we like it, it labels us as someone who's easy?
That nerve-wracking first date can make the most confident person feel stressed out. This is mainly because first-date advice usually contradicts itself. For example, should you or shouldn't you talk about exes on a first date? While this is sometimes seen as a first date conversational red flag by many people, lightly touching on the subject could actually be a good thing. It gives you important information about the guy you're on a date with.